When you’re lonely, missing a loved one, or just want someone to talk to, it can be tempting to opt for a quick text message or DM. However, there are benefits to picking up the phone and making a call instead.
Why phone calls?
Vocal communication has been scientifically proven to build stronger connections between people. Even though calls can be perceived as more awkward, researchers have found that phone calls usually end up being less awkward than expected and leave people feeling more connected. Plus, communicating via text isn’t necessarily the quicker option—research shows phone calls often take around the same time.
How to reach out
Psychologists say people don’t like talking on the phone because they can’t pick up on nonverbal cues, they have to think and react in the moment, and they fear judgment.
To make phone calls easier and to ease anxieties, try preparing ahead of time. Jot down what you want to talk about. You still want the conversation to be natural, so don’t write out a script, but make bullet points of what you could talk about. Plus, if you write things down during the call as well, you won’t have to worry about forgetting what the other person said.
Another way to avoid awkwardness on a phone call is to ask questions. Think about what you wish you knew about the person you’re calling or check up on something they mentioned the last time you talked.
Talking can help
If you’re struggling with your mental health and find it hard to communicate what you’re going through, it can help to talk to friends and professionals. Picking up the phone could be your first step to connecting with Valley Oaks Health, which offers individual and group therapy.